Some people just suck. I mean, there's no way around it. The world has been equipped with really great people and really sucky people....and sometimes it's one extreme or the other, there are very few in betweens, but there are still great and sucky humans wandering the earth....all of us together, and sometimes we end up in each others paths. The great people make you want to be better, they challenge you....and you want to be around them--all the time--it's because they are great. These are the people I want to surround myself with always. On the flip side, every once in a while, a sucky one has to come along and mess up your content little life with your really great people....and all I can do is dream of running this sucky person over with my fantastic Ford Explorer....and then use my tow package to haul him away. Yup. Some people just really suck. Thank God for the great ones.
You give what you get. Some people are selfish beyond control and don't even know how it happened....but I sure do. I've watched them spiral out of control for a while and withdraw more and more into their own little bubble....leaving their friends, spouse, and family to wait in the wings as they "figure out their life" when really they just want more time to take advantage of people because they know the end is near. I'm a giver by nature and am learning to give fully without expectation but selfish people tend to suck the life out of me sometimes. Say thank you and mean it. Be gracious. Give your time. Stop counting the dollars in the bank and start counting your blessings. Pray because you believe.
People don't appreciate their relationships the way they used to. My friends have been cheated on, stomped on, thrown under the bus and run over. Why? What purpose did any of that serve? Did it get you where you wanted....highly doubtful. I've seen it in friendships, work relationships, marriages, and relationships. Stop cheating. Stop being comfortable. Stop expecting. Stop thinking that you'll do better next time. I got comfortable once....it was the best love I ever knew....and in a split second it was all gone. Maybe if we really did live in the moment and we really realized how short life is.....well, maybe, just maybe we wouldn't take people for granted.
Love is hard. If it were easy....surely, people wouldn't fail so much at it so often. I struggle lately with the love I knew and the love I still long for. When Chris died I had committed myself to being alone forever.....but time changes things, people change, and the desire for companionship is very present in my life. It's a different kind of love this time around...and a lot of things for me to sort out....but I'm slowly putting myself back in the race. It's work and you know, some people just aren't willing to work.....I guess that's why the people who know love is hard work to make it work and the people who think it's easy are always complaining about what they don't have. Effort. It goes a long way.
Patience is a virtue. God did not give me patience. In fact, I think He laughs when he sees just how impatient I can be. I'm learning though.....slowing down....taking in more of life....and patiently waiting for the brick or soft whisper He will certainly give me. People, though, are not patient. We live in a society where we rely on how we can get there the fastest, the short cuts to avoid more work, and the quickest fixes. Sometimes I envy my grandparents. They never took the short way and always taught me that the long way will make you feel the most rewarded. I have forgotten some of that as I've gotten older but most of the time, I still take the long way....in hopes that I will learn patience.
Be who you are. People are always trying to impress one another--they will give you the answer you want to hear instead of the answer you need to hear. People get offended easily and often, we change ourselves so we don't have to deal with the aftermath. Tough. The aftermath is worth it. Honesty is hard. No one wants to hear that those jeans really don't do anything for them or that their relationship is falling apart or they're in a dead end job or they've been a bad friend....but, often, they are so far in the situation they can't see any of that....and what do we do, we say, "Do what makes you happy" Hmmm....how about, take those jeans to goodwill, stop enabling your partner, find a job that makes you happy, and call your friends--they need you. Harsh. Blunt.....but honest. I would encourage that there are probably nicer ways to say all of the above but sometimes, being who you are and honest about how you feel can make all the difference. One of my favorite quotes says, "Be who you are and say what you feel....those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"I'm certainly no expert on life but I call it like I see it....and I'm learning just like everyone else. How to juggle and balance. I've never been very coordinated so sometimes those very things become the hardest in my own life....but I'm also very aware that I need to keep juggling and keep walking that balance beam, even when I am unsure and don't want to.....because one day, you might just find me out there juggling on the beam for fun. :-)
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